Grieving can bring us into the deepest, darkest places of our emotional existence. We can feel overwhelmed by regrets, despair, fury, hopelessness — an unending list of hurts while longing for even brief moments of comfort and slivers of joy. You may have thought of yourself as a kind person but don’t feel it now and notice how your inner distress is affecting your ability to treat others in ways that seem in line with the real you — the one you feel you have lost.