Posts from July 2025

Who Am I Now?

July 23, 2025
Tom Otero
First Person, Grief

When you’re a couple, your personalities blend over time. You take on a little of each other. You understand how the other thinks, and sometimes you can even find yourself finishing the other’s sentences. This is a natural occurrence. It happens over time, and it is a beautiful thing. It works. It’s the lovely part of a relationship; I refer to it as being comfortable with each other.

Parent Loss And Life Lessons

After your parent dies special dates like Father’s Day and Mother’s Day feel so very different. They hold history, traditions and memories that are special, sacred and now feel very different than in years past. It’s all changed when that parent is… missing.

Often, regardless of your age as an adult, when your parent dies it feels too soon. For some, that loss occurs at a young age. For others, they are blessed to have their parents longer. Age doesn’t seem to count when you’re grieving such an important person in your life. Grieving can be complicated when we’re adults. Somehow, at that time, we often feel “little” again inside.

When We Become Me: The Uncoupling Dilemma

In this context, the term uncoupling can be applied to anyone who has had a deep, meaningful relationship with a significant someone who has been a source of support and shared an enduring special connection — and lost them through death. This includes spouses, partners, close parent-and-child relationships, siblings (especially twins), cousins and best friends.