“Healing Grief… Moment by Moment” is a podcast created and produced by HOPE Connection. In each short episode Dr. Jo Christner or another HOPE Connection therapist offers a meditative exploration of a different aspect of grief and the healing process. As you listen, we wish you love, light and comfort.
This episode: “Allow The Wave Of Grief” (July 2021) — Channie Amato, LMFT
This is a moment of healing.
When experiencing grief, the intensity of the emotions can feel like a big wave. The wave hits at unexpected times, varying in intensity, frequency and duration. These feelings can be scary, as the wave can crash and it’s uncomfortable, to say the least.
Imagine, for a moment, that you are a water vessel, cruising in the sea. Sometimes, you’re sailing peacefully through the ocean, the sun is out, you’re feeling good. Other times, the water is choppy, or perhaps a storm is approaching. Whether the wave is approaching or the storm has already hit, when you bring notice that things are moving fast, start by finding your breath. Let your breath be your anchor. Take a moment now to close your eyes, and turn your attention inward. Place one hand on your chest, the other on your abdomen. Feel the warmth of your hands. Feel the connection, the self-compassion. Find your breath, be with your breath, find calmness in your breath. Inhale through your nose for a count of two, exhale through pursed lips for a count of four.
Welcome your grief, allow for the process, and let go. Riding the wave is a balance between allowing and letting go. As the wave approaches, try welcoming the wave of emotions. Take time to acknowledge these feelings of grief as well as tend to these emotional wounds, to allow for your process in healing.
As you take your next inhale, internally hear the word “Let” to allow the emotions, to allow the healing, to allow the experience, and internally hear the word “go” as you exhale, and let go of resistance, externalize something that no longer serves you. Inhale, “Let”, exhale, “Go”.
Wishing you much Love and Light in healing your heart… moment by moment.