There is so much pain and sorrow in our world and lives. Finding some thread of hope and inspiration often seems unreachable. It’s so important that we reach out to each other and create that thread… see each other through. From the beginning of time, hurting souls would sit around fires, tell stories and create connection and hope. We’ve strayed from those rituals and too often feel alone. We need those stories, those parables and metaphors to hold onto, a touchstone to hope.
As 2014 comes to a close, we offer you a “touchstone” to hold onto… the story of The King’s Diamond, an old Jewish folk story. This version is included in the Introduction of Living Through Mourning: Finding Comfort and Hope When a Loved One Has Died, by Harriet Sarnoff Schiff. May it bring you a sense of connection to all of us and your deceased loved one.
There once was a mighty king who owned the finest diamond in all the world. People came from far and near to see the precious stone, which sat glowing in a display case.
Harriet Schiff then comments on the story: “There is a lesson in the story of the flawed diamond that can help us all when we are hurting and sorrowing. Just as the king saw the stone ruined beyond repair and a joyless thing, so many of us view our lives following the death of a special person.
“When we are in pain we cannot comprehend, nor do we wish to, that a rosebud may be carefully carved out of a flaw. That a new life, not better but different, can be carved out by us when we have had to deal with the catastrophe of the death of someone special.
“The burden, and it is a heavy one for building this new life, generally comes at a time when we are least able to carry it. That certainly heightens our distress. When the mere business of existing in a harsh and cruel world is such an uphill struggle, how can we ask ourselves to look toward a better time? No, the burden as we see it is heavy and it is one that weighs us down as we attempt to go forward.
“Perhaps the most important thing we can know is that it is possible to shift the weight, to balance it more effectively so that we are not pulled backward but can indeed take small, slow steps toward healing.”
We at HOPE Connection would like to wish you a peaceful New Year that brings much hope, connection and healing.